Natural Hair Washing Tips

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How to wash Natural Hair?

Washing Natural Hair is a very important part of a healthy hair regimen. The main purpose of washing your hair is to remove dirt, oil, unwanted product build-up and restore moisture to the scalp and hair. Regular hair washing using a shampoo/cleanser promotes healthy hair and scalp. It helps to reduce dryness, breakage/damage, and scalp conditioners. Washing your natural hair and using the right products will make it easier to detangle and style.

The cleansing and the detangling process can take 15 to 25 minutes in the shower. So, set aside enough time. Do not overthink the process; just go with the flow. Time flies these days; you will not even feel it.

I recommend washing natural hair at least once a week. Remember to use shampoo/cleanser free of sodium sulfate.

There are many methods and techniques for washing natural hair. Having the right products and patience will make your wash day experience more enjoyable and effective.

I will guide you through my wash day process, but please bear with me. This one will be a long one but fun. I promise!

Let’s jump in…

What will you need?

  1. YOU — Be in the moment
  2. Shampoo/Co-wash product
  3. Oils/DIY mixture
  4. Moisturizing conditioner
  5. Deep conditioner
  6. Leave-in conditioner
  7. Croc clips
  8. Wide-tooth comb
  9. Hair catcher
  10. Scalp massaging shampoo brush
  11. Plastic cap
  12. Hooded dryer/Heating cap
  13. Microfiber towel/T-shirt
  14. Waterproof wireless speaker
  15. Candle/Incense

What Does Pre-Poo Mean?

It’s a prep treatment using natural oils (DIY mixture) before shampooing or co-washing your natural hair.

There are many oils and DIY mixtures to try so do not be afraid to explore. You can not know if it works for your hair if you do not try it. Right?

It is up to you and what you choose on using for your pre-poo. Our natural hair is ever curious!


Olive Oil

Coconut Oil

Avocado Oil

Jojoba Oil

DIY mixtures

Raw honey



Aloe Vera

What are the Benefits of Pre-Pooing?

  • Protect the hair from the harsh shampoo process.
  • Easier to detangle — less breakage.
  • Soften the hair and improve manageability.
  • Add extra moisture and help to restore lost moisture.
  • Add shine and improve styling.

How to a Pre-Poo?

  • Divide your damp hair into four sections.
  • Two-strand twist or braid each part.
  • Apply your oil/DIY mixture.
  • Cover your hair with a plastic cap — leave for 15 to 20 minutes under a hooded dryer or a heat cap.
  • Rinse thoroughly with warm water then go ahead with your shampoo/cleanser.

Optional: You can leave the pre-poo overnight for intense treatment.

How to Shampoo your Natural Hair?

  • Saturate your hair with lukewarm water — excellent to open up the hair’s cuticle, making it easier to work with.
  • Apply a quarter-size (per section) amount of conditioner before you apply your shampoo — for added moisture.
  • Apply your sulfate-free shampoo to your scalp.
  • Use your fingertips (do not scrub) working and massaging the product from roots to the end.
  • Focus on massaging the scalp — scalp massage aids in getting rid of the dirt and oil. Scalp massages stimulate blood flow and promote hair growth.
  • Put your head underneath the shower — the force of the water will help the shampoo spread down to the ends.
  • Do not detangle your hair at this time.
  • Rinse the shampoo and squeeze out the excess water.
  • Go ahead to your conditioning process.

Optional: Use a scalp massaging shampoo brush to extract dirt and promote hair growth and more effective.


What is co-washing? Co-washing is a short-term for “conditioner washing only.” Many women are turning to co-washing. Conditioner washing can lead to product build-up depending on the styling products you use and how often you co-wash. In this case, I recommend rotating every other week between shampooing and co-washing to avoid unwanted build-up.

For deep-cleansing. Use a clarifying shampoo, at least once a month or twice a month and or when desired. 

How to Condition Your Natural Hair?

Conditioning the hair after shampooing is fundamental for a healthy hair regime. Shampoos/cleansing can be drying on our natural hair. Therefore, we need to re-invite the moisture. Conditioners are everybody’s best friend for any hair type! Especially when you find your favourite conditioners. I recommend using a budget-friendly moisturizing conditioner that is thick, spreads easily and has a good slip.

This is my favourite part!

  • Apply A LOT of the conditioner evenly to each section in the same way you would apply your shampoo.
  • Put your head slightly underneath the shower (warm water) this will help to spread the conditioner down the hair.
  • Do not forget the middle of your head and the ends.
  • Leave the conditioner in your hair, and you can use this time to shave and shower before the detangling process.

This technique will allow the conditioner time to penetrate the hair’s strands, making the detangling process easier and safer.

How to Detangle Natural Hair?

This step is crucial. I believe this part is the intimidating part of washing your natural hair. Detangling is the removal of all knots and tangles.

I highly recommend finger detangling to remove any knots and tangles without ripping out your hair and causing breakage.

Imagine your fingers having eyes. They can see and feel the knots and tangles.

  • Apply a generous amount of conditioner.
  • Find the tangles and knots working your fingers through your hair.
  • Finger detangle from the roots to the ends.
  • Be gentle, take your time.
  • Use the pressure of the shower to push the tangles out and to smooth out your hair.
  • Apply more conditioner — the more, the better.
  • When the knots and tangles are gone. Use a wide-tooth comb to detangle if required.
  • Rinse your hair with warm water and squeeze the excess water.
  • Go ahead with your deep conditioning treatment.


How to Deep Condition?

Deep conditioning is an intense treatment that penetrates the hair’s strands. I recommend deep conditioning your hair at least once a week to maintain moisture and healthy hair.

  • Apply a generous amount of your deep conditioner smoothing the product into your hair.
  • Use a wide-tooth comb to disperse the product.
  • Apply a good amount of the deep conditioner in the middle of your head and the ends of your hair.
  • Leave the shower and sit under your hood-dyer/heat cap for 15-30 minutes.

You can head back into the shower or do some housework, cook, or even run errands with the deep conditioner in your hair.


Are you all done? Head back to the shower.

  • Thoroughly rinse out the deep conditioner with cold water — using cold water lay down the outer layer of the hair which helps the hair to keep moisture and prevent moisture loss.
  • Squeeze the excess water and go ahead with your leave-in.

How to Apply your Leave-In Conditioner?

Leave-in conditioner is a natural girl MUST have. I can not stop to stress important it is to use a leave-in conditioner. Moisture (water) is the key to preventing dryness, tangles, and breakage. So, whatever you do, wash your hair at least once a week and ALWAYS apply a leave-in conditioner!

You can not say I didn’t warn you!

  • Apply a penny size of leave-in conditioner per section while in the shower.
  • Take your time to work and smooth the product into your hair.
  • Use a wide-tooth comb to disperse the product.
  • Squeeze the excess product and two-strand twist each section.
  • Dry and style.

Lazy Wash Day Routine

Wash day can sometimes be time-consuming, those days when I am busy or just feeling lazy. The reality remains and I have to wash my hair. Or else I will pay for it with dry, brittle hair.

  • Pre-poo the night before if needed
  • Cleanse/Co-wash your hair as soon as you enter the shower.
  • Apply A LOT of conditioner.
  • Use your finger to detangle each section at a time, focusing on the knots and tangles.
  • Apply your deep conditioner.
  • Go ahead detangle and deep condition the other sections.
  • Apply more conditioner. Use a wide tooth-comb to finish up the detangling.
  • Cover your hair with a plastic cap.
  • Take this time to shower and shave.
  • Apply your leave-in conditioner.
  • Leave the shower and style.

Washing your hair is all around a great feeling; your hair feels clean and refreshed. Besides washing your hair on wash day, what is another benefit for you?

I practice mindful meditation in the shower on a regular. Mindfulness improves my well-being and uplifts my soul, bringing overflowing healing and awareness and harmony and peace in my life.


  • Use sulfate-free (no-poo) shampoos.
  • Avoid silicone in your hair products.
  • Do not wash your hair when you’re upset or in a hurry.
  • Make certain your fingernails are free of chips and jagged edges.
  • Make sure you are working in four sections.
  • Always rub your products between the palm of your hand before applying it to your hair.
  • The “praying hands method” — take a section of your hair, apply the product then clap hands together (praying hands), pulling them to the tip.
  • You do not have to pre-poo every wash day. You can use a conditioner before shampooing.
  • I recommend doing a pre-poo before using any clarifying shampoo.
  • Use a scalp massaging shampoo brush. Focus in the middle of your scalp.
  • I highly recommend deep conditioning every wash day. Whether in the shower (lazy day wash) or under a heat cap/hood dryer.

My Favorite Wash Day Products

  • Camile Rose Sweet Ginger Cleansing Rinse
  • DevaCurl Buildup Buster Micellar Water Cleansing Serum
  • Curls Pure Clarifying Shampoo
  • As I Am Coconut Cleansing Co-Wash Conditioner
  • Aztec Secret Indian Healing Clay
  • Bragg Organic Raw Apple Cider Vinegar
  • Garnier Whole Blends Replenishing Conditioner
  • Shea Moisture Manuka Honey & Mafura Oil Intensive Hydration Hair Masque
  • Kinky-Curly Knot Today

First, what is Meditation?

Meditation is a practice being present and in the moment. Shower meditation is an excellent opportunity to practice mindfulness. You can practice meditation while you wash your hair or when showering. I recommend guided meditation for beginners.

The shower helps to stimulate your creativity. This is why many of us get the best ideas in the shower. Start from 5 to 10 minutes on your hair wash day.

On wash day, I recommend meditating before or after cleansing your hair. Whatever works for you. Go ahead.

How to Meditate?

You lead the way!

Begin by taking control of your surroundings.

Set your phone on the airplane mode.

Light a candle or burn incense.

Turn on your wireless speaker (listen to your favourite relaxing music) but I suggest listening to binaural beats.

Turn on the shower and stand under the shower. Stand straight, keep your arms down next to your body.

Relax and get comfortable with your space. Breathe deeply and slowly close your eyes.

FOCUS on your breathing.

Instantly, you will feel a strong sense of being of peace.

First, be grateful that you have clean running water and a roof over your head.

Bring your mind to the idea you are about to cleanse yourself for the good health of your body, mind, and soul.

Breathe in slowly for five seconds.

Hold your breath for five seconds, then slowly breathe out.

Repeat four times.

Relax your body.

Pay close attention to how you feel when you inhale and exhale.

Stay positive.

Imagine the water washing the negative thoughts or feelings you have about yourself.

Feel the water running down the top of your head along your back as it hits your body.

Notice your thoughts’ wants, to think about the past or planning for the further. Let them come and go without analyzing or without judgment.

Don’t create images of yourself just stay as you are.

Do not stop yourself from thinking let your thoughts come and go as they are.

Remain as you are, uninterrupted!

If you lose your focus start again, focus on your breathing.


Feel the healing of the water.

Enjoy the moment.

Be in the moment.

Feel the awakening of your peace.

Notice your body sensation.

When you are ready.

Allow yourself to come back into the room.

Wiggle your fingers and move your arms.

Slowly open your eyes.

Breathe. Embrace yourself.

Be thankful for the cleansing and healing.

A new experience can bring a new beginning!

Try it. You will not regret it!

All done!

We must be thankful for the little we have. So, next time you wash your hair, use less water!

Practice Daily Gratitude! 

What is your favourite part of your wash day? Need help with meditation?

Leave me a message below.

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10 thoughts on “Natural Hair Washing Tips
  1. Nia M

    So glad I came across your post. My 12 year old niece is currently spending the weekend with me and I realized she needed to wash her hair. I looked up a few blogs online to figure out exactly what I needed to do. I’m so glad I came across yours because you really explained the process. My niece also said it’s a lot easier when someone else washes your hair, ha. Thank you for your amazing tips!  

    • admin

      Greetings Nia,

      I am happy my post was of help to you and your niece.

      I agree with your niece. It’s much easier and relaxing when someone washes my hair. But’s only if they follow my lead. 🙂

      Much thanks

  2. Gomer

    If only I have learned about these things earlier, maybe my hair is still in tact today. Unfortunately, I only started caring for my hair when it’s gone. I’m already getting bald, not just thinning, but literally getting bald. And based on what you have shared in this article, our hair is very sensitive I should not even touch it when upset. Now that I am suffering from Alopecia (male pattern baldness), all I can do is reminisce the time when I used to have thick hair. 

    • admin

      Greetings Gomer,

      Thank you for sharing your story with me. I am very sorry to hear about your experience with alopecia.

      I wish you all the best. 

      Again, Thank you.


  3. Michael

    I really like your site. Lots of information on hair care, so many things I didn’t even know about pertaining to hair care. But thats a guy for ya. It’s well presented, and very interesting. I love your story, it’s great. I think I need a good scalp massage now 😮


    • Admin

      Greetings Michael,
      Awesome! I am happy I was able to be of some help to you.
      Yes, if I was you I would definitely get a scalp massager. You will not go wrong.
      Thank you 🙂

  4. Alblue

    My sister is lazy with her washing day, so this article will be enough to make her start washing routine. You said that washing hair should be done at least once a week. My sister works in a manufacturing plant, so her hair often exposed with chemical and pollution. Is it better if the wash day done once a day? Thanks for your opinion

    • admin

      Greetings Alblue,

      Thank you for stopping by.

      Yes, I would highly recommend her washing her hair every day and I hope she has her hair cover at work. Also, make sure she is using a moisturizing shampoo and conditioner. She can also consider using a co-wash cleanser which is less drying on the hair. 

      Thank you


  5. Babsie Wagner

    I’m trying to embrace my natural hair, but I have been feeling like it is a train wreck!  I am so grateful that I came across your site, because, honestly I have never in my life heard of a pre-poo.  Wow, and I have olive oil and coconut oil right here in my kitchen, so I am all in!  I’m going to try it.  I’m also going to do it overnight and see if I can’t get some better shine and life back into my hair.  I feel it’s just over-processed, and dry, and lackluster.  Thank you thank you thank you!

    • admin

      Greetings Babsie,

      I am happy to hear. You are very welcome.

      Yes, pre-poo is a lifesaver. Go for it. Try it!

      Let me know how it worked out for you.

      Much thanks 


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